Is college really so pure and innocent?
My stomach was swirling and I felt sick. I had just gone through the most demoralizing experience I could imagine. I felt like I was treated less than human and stripped of my voice.
I was 17 and I had just been dripping sweat on a plane for 14 hours on a flight to New Jersey gearing up to take my GED. I had the entire exam scheduled to be completed in one day because I had a return flight back to Israel the following week. Between the subject exams, I went to the bathroom and when I came back I realized I was five minutes late to the explainer video on how to use a basic calculator for the math portion of the exam.
I was denied entry by the proctor and the administration demanded that I reschedule the entire exam two weeks from then. I explained that I would miss my flight back to where I was living and didn’t have the financial capacity to lose this flight and get a new one. No one cared. Those are the rules. “You need to watch the whole video with the class on how to use a calculator to take the math portion of the GED exam.” And that was it. After that experience, the last thing I wanted to do was to go to a traditional college that would treat me like a cog in the machine. I quickly realized, college, traditionally as we know it isn’t about you or your personal growth. It’s about social recognition and dragging a ball and chain for 4 years nodding politely, as you slowly dig yourself deeper and deeper into unforgivable debt, which even bankruptcy can’t shake off.
This experience is just one of many which people go through in the modern education system. My close family friend Alex had immigrated from the Ukraine to get an American college education. He worked two jobs just to pay for basic living expenses and took out loans to cover the cost of tuition. He finally got into a competitive nursing program, and after finishing his first year of nursing he was drafted for the war in Iraq in 2003. After serving his country and coming back in one piece, he goes back to college to complete his nursing degree. Only to his surprise, he learns that they had forfeited his spot in the program and that according to the administration he needs to reapply and start the entire program from the beginning because he was gone for a year. He pleaded, begged, demanded and even brought them his medal of honor which he received in combat. All of his pleas had fallen on deaf ears. It wasn’t until his Sergeant came down to the college in person and ORDERED that they place him back in the program that they conceded.
These are everyday stories of how systematically demoralizing and abusive academia has become. Where the rules come first, and your personal circumstance is completely ignored. Every year 1000 students commit suicide on college campus alone. 23% of female undergrad students get raped, and more than 15% of all college students are bullied, beaten and abused across college campuses in the U.S. This doesn’t include the incidences on Virginia Tech and other campuses where students are murdered by other students, after which the college pays the media to cover up the countless unpublished stories from going public. Virginia Tech has had so much crime that they had to pay off the media to rank it as, “The College with the happiest students.” I have not seen so many bitter, near-suicidal faces all gathered in one place as I have during the time I spent on Virginia Tech’s campus.
What if your child was murdered or committed suicide as a result of sending them off to study away from home? How would that make you feel as a parent?
College used to be a safe place where young adults would go to grow as humans. But in the past years it has gradually evolved into a system of inflexible rules, exploitation of its students’ through mandatory meal plans, dormitory fees, administration fees and $400 textbooks which end up in the trash a year later. On top of this, colleges have the audacity to enforce the strictest disciplinary action for situations outside of your control. In Oxford University, Nathalie Wright, after suffering from Chronic Fatigue Syndrome medically termed ME (myalgic encephalomyelitis) was forced to take upwards of 30 hours of exams to be allowed to continue her studies after a year of absence due to her illness. “ME is an illness where any kind of exertion – physical or mental – exacerbates symptoms. Doing extra exams on top of the huge quantity of revision I was expected to do would make me iller. Says student Nathalie Wright.”
What if your child became fatally sick and the University treated them this way? Wouldn’t that make you angry?
College has become less about the humanitarian growth experience and has degraded into a system which encourages incompetence in favor of a positive grade. It’s all about cramming for exams and forgetting everything you learned immediately afterward. This sort of approach to academia has made colleges across the U.S. a breeding ground for drugs, sex, and alcohol.
Why do you think kids resort to drugs during high school and college? When you’re a cog in a machine, demoralized in every sense. Repeatedly told that you’re not enough. Not bright enough, not studious enough, not social enough, not popular enough. After cramming for exams and experiencing multiple forms of emotional and physical abuse, students submit to peer pressure and experiment with drugs to ‘take the edge off.’ For some, that experience ends in college, for others, it ends in a casket after years of overpriced rehabilitation treatment that comes straight out of your retirement savings.
With this understanding, it’s no surprise that most students graduating from High School have NO a) Self-confidence b) Vision for the future c) Sense of direction or purpose d) Ambition or motivation.
Still think colleges have your best interest in mind? According to Peterson the top reasons why students drop out of college is because of money issues, family issues, and personal emergencies. What kind of education system spits someone out because of unexpected personal problems in their life? Why do colleges make it unreasonably difficult to return where you left off after a small gap in your studies?
This is exactly why I started KIVER. To give people an alternative to the abusive nature of traditional college. I believe in an education system that doesn’t analyze your GPA’s, your SAT/ACT scores, or college admission essays when you’re 17 years old to gauge how successful you will be for the rest of your life.
I believe in a system that cares about you as a person, as an individual. A system that makes sure your college experience has meaning. A college experience that isn’t centered around juggling 5 or 6 classes at a time, trying to make it everywhere on time, while still finding the energy for tutors and homework. I believe in an education system that treats you human and lets you grow into the brightest version of yourself. It doesn’t matter what your background is, where you grew up, or what happened in your past. You deserve access to a sincere and compassionate education that shapes you into the person YOU truly want to be. If there is anything to be said of education, it’s that, “It’s the instrument used to discover yourself and develop into an accomplished human.” The only time you default back to your old habits is when you aren’t given the time, support, and focus to develop into the person YOU want to be.
The entire Education experience through KIVER is established on forming your child into an accomplished adult. Here’s why you’ll love this approach as a parent: You can literally monitor your child’s college success from home during their High School years. — Where they won’t risk being harmed physically (rape/kidnapping/overdose/murder) or mentally (hazing, bullying, etc). The most accomplished kids are already in dual-enrollment and direct credit programs finishing their associate’s degree by the time they finish High School. How are your kids going to compete while two-years behind in this insanely competitive job market?
You want your child to live an accomplished life, right?
You don’t want your child to end up a failure, right?
You want your child to come out of their 4-year college experience without any physical or emotional trauma, right?
You want your child to cultivate healthy relationships and raise a healthy family of their own, right?
When I started my personal journey, I:
-Didn’t have any faith in myself
-Didn’t believe that I could succeed at anything I set my mind to
-Lacked confidence in myself
-Was in a disadvantaged environment
-Stuck in a limiting/negative pattern of thinking which kept breeding negative outcomes
-Lacked personalized guidance
-Didn’t love myself
-Feared ending up a failure & unaccomplished
-Was scared to step outside my comfort zone, inhibited by my own boundaries
-Burdened & inhibited by my parent’s fear of failure/risk which they transmitted to me
-Lived for the approval of others instead of living to make myself happy and grow in the ways I need to
-Was motivated by greed
Here’s what the KIVER experience gave me:
+ Time. Time to test, experiment, and eliminate various career options and things I thought I would want to do. I was able to do this at a very young age well before I was hit with personal obligations with no regrets in life. How often do we hear of people that are ‘stuck’ in their career just because they chose the wrong major in college or ended up getting pregnant and having to take care of their families early?
+Healthy Companions. It gave me the ability to envelop myself in a high growth environment I otherwise wouldn’t have access to at Harvard University. I was never Ivy league bound and would never have received the cultural, academic and life training that I got at Harvard and Stanford. It’s because I got my undergrad completed with no debt and early enough that I was able to access career and graduate school opportunities that put me into a high growth environment with positive peer influences. You are always going to be the average of the five people you associate with the most. And it only takes one connection that can change the course of your life for the better.
+Faith. In myself and in my vision
+Clarity. I was able to find mental clarity and dig deep inside myself and figure out who I want to be as a person.
+Direction. I was able to pin down a definite direction in life and proceed with definiteness of purpose in my every waking moment
+Focus.I learned to focus on a single task and build more each day without getting sidetracked to pursue a different track
+Love Myself. I stopped doing things that made me uncomfortable or that would lead me to failure. Instead, I do what will bring me the greatest amount of joy and success by testing whatever I do with benchmark performance hypothesis, testing, market feedback until I recognize what works and do more of it.
+Self-confidence. I’ve built the confidence that anything I do I will eventually succeed in. It’s not a question ‘if’ I’ll succeed any longer. Only when I will succeed as long as I’m willing to keep pushing forward and trying.
+Patience. Now, understand the meaning of working methodically towards the things you want in life. Putting in the work each day and progressing as a human. Knowing that people fall into success after years of positive feedback and reinforcement from their environment, and never by trying to hack their way to success.
+Love people. The ability to…. and be motivated by the ability to improve other people’s circumstance.
+Quit validation from others. Stopped living through what I was told or thought other people thought of me. I do things out of love for doing them and it shows. Never to impress others or to ‘try to make them like me.’
+Develop a positive mindset. And positive thought patterns.
+Form an identity. Unique to myself that I do not question, nor do I feel intimated by others that attempt to question it. Just because someone doesn’t understand something doesn’t discredit it (or mean that ‘It doesn’t make sense’).
These are things you too can gain by taking this journey and experiencing a KIVER Education.
There is really only one thing that KIVER offers, and that is a promise that you will have the most compassionate college experience through people that genuinely care about your future after college and your current circumstance. KIVER promises that you will be motivated to develop some of the most positive habits that will stay with you for life. And that you will grow as a person in your critical thinking (breaking down information), design thinking (expanding information) and in your personal habits. There is also a technical aspect that KIVER covers and that is the ability to complete a Bachelors degree in 40 weeks which comes as a byproduct of your growth. As step 2 of the process, Kiver offers critical career orientation that will help you discover the work you LOVE to do, paired with a professional industry certificate in the field. Once you complete these steps, you will easily be able to glide into Harvard Grad School following my suggestion.
In summary: KIVER Education is a college experience without the financial and emotional abuse, bureaucracy, and red tape commonly associated with a traditional college education. Instead, KIVER focuses on each student as an individual who has dreams, needs, passions, and desires. And is there to supplement your growth while helping you achieve advanced credentials from the best schools in the U.S.
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Oxford Punishes You For Health Problems: https://www.theguardian.com/education/2016/oct/18/oxford-university-punished-me-students-expelled-ill
Peterson, Why Student’s drop out of college: https://blog.petersons.com/2015/11/11/top-11-reasons-why-college-students-dropout-dont-let-it-happen-to-you/